Recently, a young man approached me about a very important and daunting issue. He is new in the LS and... moreHello My Sexies...
Recently, a young man approached me about a very important and daunting issue. He is new in the LS and had certain health concerns in regards to how to move forward. I have decided to share my advice in hopes of starting a real conversation about it. Whether your goals include participation in a creampie GB (I'm not here to judge, do You Boo) or setting up a swapping play date, the desire to not bring anything else home but smiles and post orgasm glow is a big one.
Sex is all about calculated risk and personal choice. Everyone has their own approach. The key is to find those with a complimentary approach to yours and indulge at your own discretion.
Personally, I advise against anonymous sex. In my opinion, it is creepy, sad and prone to all variety of issues. Being in the LS is not necessarily synonymous with reckless behavior. The majority that are in this world are married or deeply involved with their partners and have families and children to go home to. It is not worth the risk of not making it back to those who depend on you the most.
That is why folks vet out any prospective playmates. Get to know people. Find out about their history within the LS and their approach to it. Read their certifications and, on the flip side, certify whenever possible. It helps out the whole community. Its not about Kissing and Telling; it's about letting your fellow freaks and kinksters know who is legit.
Ask for an exchange of up to date paperwork as far as blood work and results for STIs. Get the rapid test or even go to a clinic together. Utilize safer sex practices. The same way that you approach, or used to approach dating in your vanilla life should be with the same regard that you look for lovers here. If something is important to you, like your body and your health, then conduct yourself accordingly. Make true friends and develop a network based on vetted or certified friends and playmates of those that you know and trust personally. That is the smartest way to safeguard yourself. As always, I wish you the best in your endeavors. Play smart. less
When you meet someone online... do you send photos with filters that are borderline professional OR... Photos... moreQUESTION...
When you meet someone online... do you send photos with filters that are borderline professional OR... Photos that look more "you woke up like this"?
I prefer the latter... NOTHING like a pleasant surprise of real life being better than pics...
PLUS... if you are either sooo horny to screw anyone who meets "your criteria" or sooo superficial that a photo would stop you from meeting someone you are having bomb online conversation with...
We wouldn't click anyway... MOST of the folk I know in the lifestyle I have NEVER touched lol... BUT we MET... NO ONE DIED... WE LIVED... ߘ°ߘ°ߘ°ߘ#SOMEOFTHECOOLESTPEOPLEINTHEWORLDLS!!! less
My background and personal experience is not as a traditional party swinger, but as a Polyamorous couple who shared deep... moreMy background and personal experience is not as a traditional party swinger, but as a Polyamorous couple who shared deep meaningful relationships with other couples... I don't mind "The Endless Emails" as long as it's a real couple on the other side... this lifestyle for me is just as much about the amazing lives I have encountered and been touched by as it is about the BOMB sexual experiences...
That said... we JUST wanted to play... so we posted an ad lol! I get this response from this guy that sparked me to want to dig deeper than "does she like her hair pulled and can she really take the dick?"... It turns out his wife had an affair and he can't get past it... he can't bring himself to understand how she could have a sexual affair that was NOT about sex at all... in fact the sex was bad and per her own admission never compared to her sexual experiences with her husband of 16yrs... She confessed, ended it, and has been so repentant that she ran back to the church...
Well well well... I was still smelling a rat... of course his ass was cheating too... he just NEVER got caught... so you know I got all in his ass, snatched him off his high horse and I think he will go back to his wife with a totally different perspective...
I say all this to say... Society has created this moral code that simply goes against human nature and prevents couples from getting past mundane lower level emotions and having an authentic relationship based on total honesty and constant open communication... here we have two freaks who were likely bored, not communicating their needs, and too selfish to fulfill them for each other... with each other... when the easy answer is to tell their truth to each other, get their relationship out of the ditch, set real rules that accommodate what they both need and want... SWING... every now and then... and live life outside this fake ass boring ass box society and the church says we all should live by but behind closed doors, deep in our psyche, hearts, and minds... NO ONE really lives by...
Hey Guys,
Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY... moreHey Guys,
Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY swing club:
1. Do your research. Figure out what night is catering to the best crowd, theme and price range for your sensibilities. Off nights, like Mondays or anything midweek, are more attractive for those with thin pockets (no hate, no shade)...but you get what you pay for: an off night with no guarantee of a crowd, or maybe crowded with a rowdier or less desirable bunch of folks, more {possibly creepy} single dudes. The larger and more organized parties tend to be planned far in advance so that folks have time to plan and prepare to come out.
2. Bring Sand to the beach- If you are a couple, let's keep it 100. You should NEVER have any complaints about going out with your sexy Bae and having a good time. Treat every LS adventure as a Sexy Date Night for you both. Outside of that, reach out to any prospects and entice them to come out and party with you. You are on a damn swinger website. Get out of your fucking house and meet some damn swingers! If you start up a dialogue 1st with folks, you will worry less about getting a cold shoulder in person. Even if they are aloof in person (most aren't if you actually speak to them like cool, somewhat sane and respectful human beings), then you know that those aren't the people that you need to be around. Not everyone will like you, or vice versa. It happens. Spend your energy connecting with those that do. And develop a thicker skin to rejection. In this world, you will need it.
3. Have NO Expectations- People are people. One minute it might be a go with some sexy strangers, the next minute, someone gets cold feet or a couple squabble or some other "party done". Shit happens. The less you go into things expecting a payout from anyone other than you and your Beloved, the far far FAR less chance that you set yourself up for disappointment. When things don't pop off with others, man up and and bang your personal hottie silly on one of the beds.
4. Lastly, once again...you get what you pay for- Y'all let me know in what other scenario IN LIFE would you get a place to dress up as scandalous as you want, eye fuck other scandalous sexies, possibly meet and fuck said scandalous sexies on amenities provided, drink as much as you bring and not get arrested or raided for your Hedonistic behaviour...all in the span of a legit night out? You ain't getting that for 30 bucks a couple. Leave the vanilla club prices right with the vanilla club mentality. This IS a far different world. less
I am sorry that some of you guys have had less than positive experiences within the LS and in regards to your party... moreI am sorry that some of you guys have had less than positive experiences within the LS and in regards to your party experiences. The LS is what you make of it. This world has many different personalities and styles to it. As someone with almost 15 years of experience under my belt, I am ONLY here because I believe in the ideology of what this community can really be. I believe in the vision put forth from the people who created and who continuously contribute RELEVANT information to this website. I believe in the folks who work tirelessly to bring the masses the best experience possible. I am overloading on the word "experience", because it is kind of important here. Information and resources are supplied here by a variety of people who have LIVED this Life, who KNOW the ins and outs of this world, and who LOVE it for what it is. This ain't a cash cow, it's a community. No one is begging anyone or forcing them to come out and play or to even come out and meet people. Whenever people air their grievances, it's fine. It's a safe zone. We don't WANT you to fail. We WANT you to enjoy yourselves to the fullest. And, if we can point out where you have been steering wrong, we will. Everything isn't for everyone. You won't be everyone's speed. No one is obliged to fuck you or to be your friend because you paid to go to a party. Being sexy is objective. None of that has anything to do with bashing a venue because you don't want to pay to go anywhere or because of someone else's bad time. Stay in your lane if it's working for you. We won't cry, we don't judge. But be offensive, and I guarantee that you will be called on it. Call it a life lesson. Best of Luck on whatever constitutes as a Win in your LS journey. less
A black truck pulls into a brick driveway on a quiet street in LA.
Chris is just getting home from work. Another day of... moreA black truck pulls into a brick driveway on a quiet street in LA.
Chris is just getting home from work. Another day of deadlines and quarterly reports. Another hope for promotion crushed. His car still running, he scolds himself while still holding on to the steering wheel.
"What am I doing at this fucking firm? Anyone else with my talents would be partner by now. But if i leave Ill have wasted five years for nothing."
He stares deep into the rearview mirror, disgusted by his own sight.
"You have invested everything. Now look at you, stuck with worthless case after worthless case! There is no ladder for you."
A million reasons why he was yet again passed up for partner race through his mind. But only one truly haunts him. The Boss's wife, Christmas party 3 years ago.
Chris was moving up in the ranks fast. While assisting on a case against one of the biggest pharmaceutical companies in the western hemisphere his mentor and lead attorney on the case, Steven Droner was killed in a car accident. Chris was forced into lead counsel and took to it like a shark in chum filled water. In his way were six of the most powerful and influential lawyers in the business.
The multibillion dollar defendant was taken to school by a sharp dressed kid fresh off the bar. The win was tremendous and earned Chris a corner office and his oakwood colored face found itself in law magazines and journals across the country.
The win came fittingly at the end of December.
Rogerson & Carmichael was a firm with a reputation for its big wins, highlife and excessive partying. Chris made sure he wasn't celebrating as much as everyone else.
Tiffany Carmichael was twenty years younger than her powerful husband. A trophy in every stereotypical way, but just as vindictive as she was beautiful. No one knows what neglect or infidelity prompted her to spill herself all over Chris that night but she infected the office with a swarm of rumors after commenting on Chris's tall stature and whether it translated to him being hung like a horse. Seeing her milky well manicured hands sliding up and down Chris's shirt must have burned deeply into Mr. Carmichael's soul. She was practically jerking off his new golden boy's tie in the middle of the office. He must have been deafened by the dozens of stares and murmers that clouded the room. Chris could sense the poison in her voice. He eased out of the party and headed straight for the hallway. His wait for the elevator was excruciating. Just as he thought of taking the stares "ding" the doors opened. He stepped in and just as the doors completely shut, they reopened. A red heel and matching miniskirt slipped in. Her thin calves and thighs were coated with eggshell hued muscle. She was a Greek stone. Helena in the flesh.
"Chris, where are you going?" She moaned. The doors closed behind her. She leaned over and pressed L. There was 28 floors of nowhere to go. "Mrs. Carmichael, I think you might be drunk. Why don't I just get off and..."
"On the contrary Chris. I haven't had a sip tonight, but I could go for something dark and intoxicating right now."
Chris was paralized by fear. If he moved her out of the way to stop the elevator who knew what she might claim. He stood like a lone statue in Tiffany's personal gallery. All he could do was watch the numbers slowly drop as his boss's wife approached. She left a small space between them. The nipples on her expensive breasts poked through a light Biagiotti blouse that struggled to hold on to her bust. She grabbed ahold of Chris's tie, pulled in close and snaked her hand down to his member. He was frozen but his cock was immediately awakened by Tiffany's pulsing grip.
"Cant imagine a big buck like you being frightened by little ol me."
Tiffany wrapped her leg around Chris's waist. Her nails latched on to Chris's belt. The space between them has evaporated. Her tight body pressed against the fullness that grew below her. Her eyes widened as she joyfully clenched her jaws.
"Oh my, Attorney King. I don't know where your more impressive, in the courtroom or in your pants. My god."
Time stood still as Chris pondered his future plummeting at a speed rivaling the elevators descent. A soft kiss on his collar all but sealed his fate.
"Ding"
The doors opened at the lobby and a mobb of Mr. Carmichael's rivals, employees and interns stood awaiting to enter an elevator crowded with heat and tension. Gasps and cleared throats echoed throughout the large lobby hall. Just as she entered, Mrs. Carmichael exited the elevator with a child like grin. Her heels thundered against the marble floor as she parted a quiet sea of suit jackets and silver hair.
Chris paused before he stepped into a silent group of men. Their eyes pierced into him. Each man launched stares hard enough to push Chris back into the closing elevator doors. Chris walked out of the building without a word but he never could escape the cloud Tiffany placed over his career.
My wife and I have discussed letting her suck off another guy while I watch. It's a fantasy for both of us. I love hearing... moreMy wife and I have discussed letting her suck off another guy while I watch. It's a fantasy for both of us. I love hearing stories about her past sexual experiences. She was already giving guys hand jobs in middle school. She one time sucked a guy off who had a huge cock and she's also blown a black guy. She tells me these stories while she's sucking my cock. Just curious if this is something we should pursue. My wife is young and attractive. Finding a man willing to let her suck him off would be the easy part. Just not sure how we'll feel afterwards...... MWL, WHAT SAY YOU ???? less
hi just wanting to see how many wome out there well also want to see how many localy would or like to have sex with a... morehi just wanting to see how many wome out there well also want to see how many localy would or like to have sex with a couple, and how she feels when its the couples first time or does she prefer the couple to have some expirenc when it comes to getting down and dirty you know when you just feel like letting go, giving your self to the other enjoying the moment letting him or in this case also her making you there bitch lost in the awsome feeling of that pleasure like if you where in the heavens floating inthe clouds ecstasy letting go ah! Brings back memorys of one of are little adventures I didn't get the chance to record it because we started as three but because of are motel rooms awesome 10'ft baywindows we where on a bay view unit that was 20'feet away from the road right across from the motels bar & grill / fishing pier /bait stand and a parking lot full of cars it was a busy night we whent there for starters and we got a good buzz going and my wife is getting bit friendly I noticed she was flirty with a women that was with a gentleman lets call him smiley he was just starring at my wifes big tittys my wife leand over to tell me she noticed he was getting hard because all of a sudden you could see he was packing a huge monster in his nut hugers other people also noticed him that's how blessed this guy was they where about 8 to 10 years older than us but anyway she wanted to go on with us her guy wanted to keep drinking I think he had his eye on another fox that was in the bar &grill so we where planning on taking a walk along the shore it was a cool breezy night so she said sounds good and she followed along catching up to keep my darling wifes side and she put her head on my wife shoulder and rapped her arm around her and grabbed my arm it was already there so we walked and talked got a long as we made are way back to are room where we had a few more drinks and a fattie for a nightcap so she tell my wife hay we should use the windows we looked at each other and she drew the blinds and curtains wide open and then turned the lights out we already had a spectator she was the house maid she was just looking and flirting with me as we passed her on the motel walk way she was impressed because I had to beautiful women hugging up on me and she brought to my attention that caught a small but hot moment my wife and no.2 where kissing each other feeling it the maid passed by are room several times she watched us for a few minutes then she got other passer by stopping to take a look at what had this maid peaking thru window so we asked her if she wanted to cum in and join us she was off and called her ride to forget picking her up she was going to a girl friend after work it was the best time out at the gulf coast when all of a sudden my wife brought up what if yher man would suddenly show up aso I smiled at her and asked her why you would love to get you some of that monster cock he has and then no. 2 squirts alover us it turned her on to here that and that maid did a great job cleaning up she's still down there wanting to do it again so that's what we are looking for fun and safe sex with good women we are not pushy or rude we I think cool laid back and fun so if you are female, and are freak and like to do it under the stars out at the lake on the trails, in front of windows where as the car leaving the parking lot across the street shine into the room revealing a few naked people romping around the motel bed why'll a small audiences ouhanging out in front of are room I was so hot and passionate that if no. 2guy would show up I would probably would have let that monster destroy my wifes hot and Iwant to say meaty pussy its beautiful I love to eat it for as long as she will let me a long time building that energy inside here so that when shecums it cums hard and strong it takes all your energy you just want to lay there and float away that's was one of the very few times that I really considered letting a aanother male into to the mix I figured if was going to let her get another cock in on the fun why not a monster ofsize of a cock if she was to get strange cock lets make it worth it make it a big massive white cock we enjoy the women together orally please that pussy together making it squirt over and over it was one for the books if you are in tristed in or have any imput love to here from you women outhere lets chat and get to know what is your pleasure sorry I made my fist blog so long ill try to keep it short xoxoxoxo less
There has been a significant amount of unrest over the weekend as far as folks having a lack of success on their various... moreThere has been a significant amount of unrest over the weekend as far as folks having a lack of success on their various play dates and such. That sucks. It is always a bummer when you anticipate a fantastic and exciting experience and the reality does not live up to expectations. I am here to tell you that we understand and we care. This is a safe zone. Feel free to vent if it helps you get past the disappointment. It gets better.
I would also like for you to understand some simple fundamentals: If YOU are not a porn star or a model, STOP expecting for the folks that you randomly come across on the internet to meet and fuck you like porn stars or models. At least, not for free. It ain't realistic, it is just a win if it ever happens to you.
People will lie about who they are and how they look. People will not always be enthused by what they see when there is that face to face meeting. People are fickle and can be turned off by any damn thing: stinky crotch, bad breath or teeth, weird itching or facial ticks, hyperaggressive behavior, inebriated/intoxicated past the point of comfort, bouts of insecurity raising their ugly head that couldn't be quelled, boundaries being threatened within the moment...you name it. Sometimes, we just need a minute to get used to the unknown and unfamiliar. Sometimes, partners get all thrown off of their game by HOW IMMEDIATELY one gets used to the unknown and unfamiliar and their ego gets tweaked. You never know until you are already invested in some way.
Problem is, some of y'all take about 10% of your energy and effort to put into making an effort to choose, COMMUNICATE with, and vet out your potential lovers; and then are butt sore when things don't pan out to a 100% success. The LS might be about the fun, the fuck and the frolick...but if you go into things half-assed or half-cocked with strangers, you are seriously playing Russian Roulette with your chances, your time, your bodies and the bodies of your loved ones.
Good Day,
I just wanted to spend some time talking about how my wife and I select qualifed couples to play with. What I'm... moreGood Day,
I just wanted to spend some time talking about how my wife and I select qualifed couples to play with. What I'm about to say applies to our situation and can be applied to yours if you like, or keep what you have in place. These guidlines may be subject to change as we gain more experience in this lifestyle as well.
My wife and I have trouble finding a decent couple to hang with even in our “vanilla” life, a cool couple just to play spades with. Even couples that we've been friends with since High School have disappointed us by doing silly shit like storming off in different directions after a bad argument. Did I forget to mention that we were at dinner on a double date? My wife and I were like "Hello, we're on a double date, did you forget about us?" It's not easy finding a perfect match in regular life, let alone swinger life, people have certain wants. For example: You may want someone cool and down to Earth, that enjoys conversation, who likes playing board games, who doesn’t smoke, is a good a dresser, who doesn’t live too far, who is attractive, who is clean and smells good (I don't think you should have to mention that last one though, lol). Now multiply some of those attributes by 2, because you may want a couple. Do you see how much harder that got? (Double Entendre, lol)
We haven't even gotten to the fuckin part yet. Men will have expectations like: "She gotta have a fat ass, dick suckable lips, , suck dick good, suck dick at all (Yes they still make those, smh), let me cum in her mouth, have long hair, have short hair, be tall, be short" etc. Ladies expectations could be “I want him to have a big dick, know how to eat pussy, eat my asshole, be tall, be willing to let me fuck him in his ass with a strap on (I know, I know fellas. I went there), must be able to pick me up, spank me like 50 shades of gray, be into BDSM, not be into BDSM, love poetry, love the movie the "Notebook”, love to read, love puppies" etc. The point is, the more things we add to these lists the harder it is to find them. When you do find, the right fit it’ll be worth it, be patient. Our vetting process is like this. First, we look at your profile and read how you
articulate yourself in the description, then we look at pics. We can't 100% judge you off of the lack of a well written profile description, maybe you’re the greatest conversationalist in the world but you set up you profile in a hurry, then never got back to it. The first strike has been struck against you though. I'm looking for similarities, likes and dislikes. There's no point in reaching out to someone that clearly stated she's looking for a single man, that's a waste of time,unless you're just seeking friendship. Once we've established the profile and the pics are nice we send a friend request to be able to see more pics. Once the friend request is accepted, we may or may not initiate further conversation based on what's going on with us (I.e.: wife was pregnant). We don't want to waste your time if we can help it. If we initiated conversation on MWL by sending you a message, that usually means that we've already established that we’re physically attracted to you. OK next step in the vetting process... Big lead up. CONVERSATION!! We communicate through MWL messages to get to know you. I'll say it again.... Big lead up. GET TO KNOW YOU. (Alot of people skip this part, that's why you're frustrated, impatient, Smh). If we establish that we like the conversation, we'll invite you to a separate medium of communication, email, phone convo, Kik, What'sapp etc. This is a good sign. This means that we like your conversation so much that we want to do it outside of MWL (Which we love by the way, hats off to the creators and administrators). So now that you've made it directly to our phones we will probably be exchanging more pics. (You can do what you want, but you'll be getting vanilla pics from us. I'll accept nudes from you though if you still want to send them.) Remember, we're still trying to establish that you're not crazy and if we want to go to that next level. OK let's say you've made it to the next level. We've chatted and exchanged pics enough that we want to see you and get to know you in person aka the meet and greet. Notice that I said “see you and get to know you in person” and not see you and get to fuck you in person (although that will cum eventually if you get through this process). Once we get scheduling differences out of the way we'll establish a friendly place to meet, hookah lounge, restaurant, etc. Somewhere that we can talk. This is where you are trying to impress the other couple or single etc. Dress Sexy (Vanilla sexy, not swinger sexy). Lmao don't show up to the movie theatre in a thong, heels with a red gag ball in your mouth, Lmao. Over the course of the evening there will probably be light flirting and good conversation, we're getting to know each other. Just because we... less
Swingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most... moreSwingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most would not have a full on BDSM scene at a swing play party. However, collars and QoS tattoos are clearly visable.
Some may say that the act of sex in and of itself implies that one person is by default dominant and the other is submissive. I've read the misogynistic musing of a rather off kilter male who declared "The female gets fucked by the male, therefore she is in a position of submission. The act of opening her legs for a man, is in and of itself, submission to the authority of his cock. Sucking dick is also an act of submission."
God forbid a woman should enjoy sex and all of its activities, without closed minded individuals disrespecting her desires!
For those who do practice the fine art of dominance and submission, their dynamic is usually also expressed within their swing activites. For those dominants who have trained their submissives to be the perfect sex slave, cum slut, anal queen, etc... what better place to show off all of your hard work, than at a swing event? A swing party is a sex slave's fun house. A swing party gives the submissive n opportunity to entertain as many play partners as their dominant allows, proudly showing off all of their hard earned skills. Double and triple penetration, 3somes, 4somes, gangbangs, analbangs, bukakke, snowballing, forced bi, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. All of the slut training that was done in private may be fully executed at a swing party. Subtle scenes of humiliation, degredation, objectication and verbal abuse may also be played out.
For those who practice cuckoldry, and are comfortable revealing their dynamic publically, a swing party maybe a wonderful setting for watching one's hotwife being serviced by multiple bulls. A cuckquean may watch her hothusband service multiple women as well. Bear in mind, swingers take little notice of a collar/choker. However, chastity belts and cock cages may be a jarring distraction.
I've seen and practiced submission at swing parties in the form of reliquishing my right to choose a play partner. My partner and I would speak at the meet and greet, I expressed to him with whom I would like to play and once play began... he chose who I played with. In doing so, he had a guideline as to what I liked and within the pool of men I identified, he picked who would be allowed to play with his prized posession. He directed how they should play with me, and advised them when I had had enough. I said nothing, and may or may not have made eye contact with the play partner. They approached from behind, as I pleased my partner orally. They asked my partner for permission to play with me. My partner responded, yes or no. I belonged to him, he determined who would play with his sex toy for the night.
A gangbang is another type of event where the recipient may fully submit. At a gangbang, the submissive is the center of attention of 5 or more people, who's only task is to fuck and objectify them. The submissive at a gangbang, is the ultimate piece of fuck meat, willing to be ravished. All participants lineup or encircle the bed talking smack and fucking the submissive senseless. Gangbangs are not for the faint at heart. Objectification, humiliation, degredation, verbal abuse are all aspects of a good gangbang. Depending on what was negotiated, bukkake, cream pies, golden showers, spitting, hair pulling, open handed spankings, choking may also on the menu. If the submissive enjoys being objectified, humiliated, degraded, and verbally abused... a group of 5 or more in a gangbang is the perfect setting for having that kinky fantasy fulfilled.
Swing may be a sex slaves/subs safe haven. It may also be the perect place for a dominant to show off all of their training skills, and share their sex toy with others.
As always, play safe and play often.... BossBlaque less
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