When you meet someone online... do you send photos with filters that are borderline professional OR... Photos... moreQUESTION...
When you meet someone online... do you send photos with filters that are borderline professional OR... Photos that look more "you woke up like this"?
I prefer the latter... NOTHING like a pleasant surprise of real life being better than pics...
PLUS... if you are either sooo horny to screw anyone who meets "your criteria" or sooo superficial that a photo would stop you from meeting someone you are having bomb online conversation with...
We wouldn't click anyway... MOST of the folk I know in the lifestyle I have NEVER touched lol... BUT we MET... NO ONE DIED... WE LIVED... ߘ°ߘ°ߘ°ߘ#SOMEOFTHECOOLESTPEOPLEINTHEWORLDLS!!! less
My background and personal experience is not as a traditional party swinger, but as a Polyamorous couple who shared deep... moreMy background and personal experience is not as a traditional party swinger, but as a Polyamorous couple who shared deep meaningful relationships with other couples... I don't mind "The Endless Emails" as long as it's a real couple on the other side... this lifestyle for me is just as much about the amazing lives I have encountered and been touched by as it is about the BOMB sexual experiences...
That said... we JUST wanted to play... so we posted an ad lol! I get this response from this guy that sparked me to want to dig deeper than "does she like her hair pulled and can she really take the dick?"... It turns out his wife had an affair and he can't get past it... he can't bring himself to understand how she could have a sexual affair that was NOT about sex at all... in fact the sex was bad and per her own admission never compared to her sexual experiences with her husband of 16yrs... She confessed, ended it, and has been so repentant that she ran back to the church...
Well well well... I was still smelling a rat... of course his ass was cheating too... he just NEVER got caught... so you know I got all in his ass, snatched him off his high horse and I think he will go back to his wife with a totally different perspective...
I say all this to say... Society has created this moral code that simply goes against human nature and prevents couples from getting past mundane lower level emotions and having an authentic relationship based on total honesty and constant open communication... here we have two freaks who were likely bored, not communicating their needs, and too selfish to fulfill them for each other... with each other... when the easy answer is to tell their truth to each other, get their relationship out of the ditch, set real rules that accommodate what they both need and want... SWING... every now and then... and live life outside this fake ass boring ass box society and the church says we all should live by but behind closed doors, deep in our psyche, hearts, and minds... NO ONE really lives by...
Hey Guys,
Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY... moreHey Guys,
Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY swing club:
1. Do your research. Figure out what night is catering to the best crowd, theme and price range for your sensibilities. Off nights, like Mondays or anything midweek, are more attractive for those with thin pockets (no hate, no shade)...but you get what you pay for: an off night with no guarantee of a crowd, or maybe crowded with a rowdier or less desirable bunch of folks, more {possibly creepy} single dudes. The larger and more organized parties tend to be planned far in advance so that folks have time to plan and prepare to come out.
2. Bring Sand to the beach- If you are a couple, let's keep it 100. You should NEVER have any complaints about going out with your sexy Bae and having a good time. Treat every LS adventure as a Sexy Date Night for you both. Outside of that, reach out to any prospects and entice them to come out and party with you. You are on a damn swinger website. Get out of your fucking house and meet some damn swingers! If you start up a dialogue 1st with folks, you will worry less about getting a cold shoulder in person. Even if they are aloof in person (most aren't if you actually speak to them like cool, somewhat sane and respectful human beings), then you know that those aren't the people that you need to be around. Not everyone will like you, or vice versa. It happens. Spend your energy connecting with those that do. And develop a thicker skin to rejection. In this world, you will need it.
3. Have NO Expectations- People are people. One minute it might be a go with some sexy strangers, the next minute, someone gets cold feet or a couple squabble or some other "party done". Shit happens. The less you go into things expecting a payout from anyone other than you and your Beloved, the far far FAR less chance that you set yourself up for disappointment. When things don't pop off with others, man up and and bang your personal hottie silly on one of the beds.
4. Lastly, once again...you get what you pay for- Y'all let me know in what other scenario IN LIFE would you get a place to dress up as scandalous as you want, eye fuck other scandalous sexies, possibly meet and fuck said scandalous sexies on amenities provided, drink as much as you bring and not get arrested or raided for your Hedonistic behaviour...all in the span of a legit night out? You ain't getting that for 30 bucks a couple. Leave the vanilla club prices right with the vanilla club mentality. This IS a far different world. less
I am sorry that some of you guys have had less than positive experiences within the LS and in regards to your party... moreI am sorry that some of you guys have had less than positive experiences within the LS and in regards to your party experiences. The LS is what you make of it. This world has many different personalities and styles to it. As someone with almost 15 years of experience under my belt, I am ONLY here because I believe in the ideology of what this community can really be. I believe in the vision put forth from the people who created and who continuously contribute RELEVANT information to this website. I believe in the folks who work tirelessly to bring the masses the best experience possible. I am overloading on the word "experience", because it is kind of important here. Information and resources are supplied here by a variety of people who have LIVED this Life, who KNOW the ins and outs of this world, and who LOVE it for what it is. This ain't a cash cow, it's a community. No one is begging anyone or forcing them to come out and play or to even come out and meet people. Whenever people air their grievances, it's fine. It's a safe zone. We don't WANT you to fail. We WANT you to enjoy yourselves to the fullest. And, if we can point out where you have been steering wrong, we will. Everything isn't for everyone. You won't be everyone's speed. No one is obliged to fuck you or to be your friend because you paid to go to a party. Being sexy is objective. None of that has anything to do with bashing a venue because you don't want to pay to go anywhere or because of someone else's bad time. Stay in your lane if it's working for you. We won't cry, we don't judge. But be offensive, and I guarantee that you will be called on it. Call it a life lesson. Best of Luck on whatever constitutes as a Win in your LS journey. less
A black truck pulls into a brick driveway on a quiet street in LA.
Chris is just getting home from work. Another day of... moreA black truck pulls into a brick driveway on a quiet street in LA.
Chris is just getting home from work. Another day of deadlines and quarterly reports. Another hope for promotion crushed. His car still running, he scolds himself while still holding on to the steering wheel.
"What am I doing at this fucking firm? Anyone else with my talents would be partner by now. But if i leave Ill have wasted five years for nothing."
He stares deep into the rearview mirror, disgusted by his own sight.
"You have invested everything. Now look at you, stuck with worthless case after worthless case! There is no ladder for you."
A million reasons why he was yet again passed up for partner race through his mind. But only one truly haunts him. The Boss's wife, Christmas party 3 years ago.
Chris was moving up in the ranks fast. While assisting on a case against one of the biggest pharmaceutical companies in the western hemisphere his mentor and lead attorney on the case, Steven Droner was killed in a car accident. Chris was forced into lead counsel and took to it like a shark in chum filled water. In his way were six of the most powerful and influential lawyers in the business.
The multibillion dollar defendant was taken to school by a sharp dressed kid fresh off the bar. The win was tremendous and earned Chris a corner office and his oakwood colored face found itself in law magazines and journals across the country.
The win came fittingly at the end of December.
Rogerson & Carmichael was a firm with a reputation for its big wins, highlife and excessive partying. Chris made sure he wasn't celebrating as much as everyone else.
Tiffany Carmichael was twenty years younger than her powerful husband. A trophy in every stereotypical way, but just as vindictive as she was beautiful. No one knows what neglect or infidelity prompted her to spill herself all over Chris that night but she infected the office with a swarm of rumors after commenting on Chris's tall stature and whether it translated to him being hung like a horse. Seeing her milky well manicured hands sliding up and down Chris's shirt must have burned deeply into Mr. Carmichael's soul. She was practically jerking off his new golden boy's tie in the middle of the office. He must have been deafened by the dozens of stares and murmers that clouded the room. Chris could sense the poison in her voice. He eased out of the party and headed straight for the hallway. His wait for the elevator was excruciating. Just as he thought of taking the stares "ding" the doors opened. He stepped in and just as the doors completely shut, they reopened. A red heel and matching miniskirt slipped in. Her thin calves and thighs were coated with eggshell hued muscle. She was a Greek stone. Helena in the flesh.
"Chris, where are you going?" She moaned. The doors closed behind her. She leaned over and pressed L. There was 28 floors of nowhere to go. "Mrs. Carmichael, I think you might be drunk. Why don't I just get off and..."
"On the contrary Chris. I haven't had a sip tonight, but I could go for something dark and intoxicating right now."
Chris was paralized by fear. If he moved her out of the way to stop the elevator who knew what she might claim. He stood like a lone statue in Tiffany's personal gallery. All he could do was watch the numbers slowly drop as his boss's wife approached. She left a small space between them. The nipples on her expensive breasts poked through a light Biagiotti blouse that struggled to hold on to her bust. She grabbed ahold of Chris's tie, pulled in close and snaked her hand down to his member. He was frozen but his cock was immediately awakened by Tiffany's pulsing grip.
"Cant imagine a big buck like you being frightened by little ol me."
Tiffany wrapped her leg around Chris's waist. Her nails latched on to Chris's belt. The space between them has evaporated. Her tight body pressed against the fullness that grew below her. Her eyes widened as she joyfully clenched her jaws.
"Oh my, Attorney King. I don't know where your more impressive, in the courtroom or in your pants. My god."
Time stood still as Chris pondered his future plummeting at a speed rivaling the elevators descent. A soft kiss on his collar all but sealed his fate.
"Ding"
The doors opened at the lobby and a mobb of Mr. Carmichael's rivals, employees and interns stood awaiting to enter an elevator crowded with heat and tension. Gasps and cleared throats echoed throughout the large lobby hall. Just as she entered, Mrs. Carmichael exited the elevator with a child like grin. Her heels thundered against the marble floor as she parted a quiet sea of suit jackets and silver hair.
Chris paused before he stepped into a silent group of men. Their eyes pierced into him. Each man launched stares hard enough to push Chris back into the closing elevator doors. Chris walked out of the building without a word but he never could escape the cloud Tiffany placed over his career.
My wife and I have discussed letting her suck off another guy while I watch. It's a fantasy for both of us. I love hearing... moreMy wife and I have discussed letting her suck off another guy while I watch. It's a fantasy for both of us. I love hearing stories about her past sexual experiences. She was already giving guys hand jobs in middle school. She one time sucked a guy off who had a huge cock and she's also blown a black guy. She tells me these stories while she's sucking my cock. Just curious if this is something we should pursue. My wife is young and attractive. Finding a man willing to let her suck him off would be the easy part. Just not sure how we'll feel afterwards...... MWL, WHAT SAY YOU ???? less
There has been a significant amount of unrest over the weekend as far as folks having a lack of success on their various... moreThere has been a significant amount of unrest over the weekend as far as folks having a lack of success on their various play dates and such. That sucks. It is always a bummer when you anticipate a fantastic and exciting experience and the reality does not live up to expectations. I am here to tell you that we understand and we care. This is a safe zone. Feel free to vent if it helps you get past the disappointment. It gets better.
I would also like for you to understand some simple fundamentals: If YOU are not a porn star or a model, STOP expecting for the folks that you randomly come across on the internet to meet and fuck you like porn stars or models. At least, not for free. It ain't realistic, it is just a win if it ever happens to you.
People will lie about who they are and how they look. People will not always be enthused by what they see when there is that face to face meeting. People are fickle and can be turned off by any damn thing: stinky crotch, bad breath or teeth, weird itching or facial ticks, hyperaggressive behavior, inebriated/intoxicated past the point of comfort, bouts of insecurity raising their ugly head that couldn't be quelled, boundaries being threatened within the moment...you name it. Sometimes, we just need a minute to get used to the unknown and unfamiliar. Sometimes, partners get all thrown off of their game by HOW IMMEDIATELY one gets used to the unknown and unfamiliar and their ego gets tweaked. You never know until you are already invested in some way.
Problem is, some of y'all take about 10% of your energy and effort to put into making an effort to choose, COMMUNICATE with, and vet out your potential lovers; and then are butt sore when things don't pan out to a 100% success. The LS might be about the fun, the fuck and the frolick...but if you go into things half-assed or half-cocked with strangers, you are seriously playing Russian Roulette with your chances, your time, your bodies and the bodies of your loved ones.
Good Day,
I just wanted to spend some time talking about how my wife and I select qualifed couples to play with. What I'm... moreGood Day,
I just wanted to spend some time talking about how my wife and I select qualifed couples to play with. What I'm about to say applies to our situation and can be applied to yours if you like, or keep what you have in place. These guidlines may be subject to change as we gain more experience in this lifestyle as well.
My wife and I have trouble finding a decent couple to hang with even in our “vanilla” life, a cool couple just to play spades with. Even couples that we've been friends with since High School have disappointed us by doing silly shit like storming off in different directions after a bad argument. Did I forget to mention that we were at dinner on a double date? My wife and I were like "Hello, we're on a double date, did you forget about us?" It's not easy finding a perfect match in regular life, let alone swinger life, people have certain wants. For example: You may want someone cool and down to Earth, that enjoys conversation, who likes playing board games, who doesn’t smoke, is a good a dresser, who doesn’t live too far, who is attractive, who is clean and smells good (I don't think you should have to mention that last one though, lol). Now multiply some of those attributes by 2, because you may want a couple. Do you see how much harder that got? (Double Entendre, lol)
We haven't even gotten to the fuckin part yet. Men will have expectations like: "She gotta have a fat ass, dick suckable lips, , suck dick good, suck dick at all (Yes they still make those, smh), let me cum in her mouth, have long hair, have short hair, be tall, be short" etc. Ladies expectations could be “I want him to have a big dick, know how to eat pussy, eat my asshole, be tall, be willing to let me fuck him in his ass with a strap on (I know, I know fellas. I went there), must be able to pick me up, spank me like 50 shades of gray, be into BDSM, not be into BDSM, love poetry, love the movie the "Notebook”, love to read, love puppies" etc. The point is, the more things we add to these lists the harder it is to find them. When you do find, the right fit it’ll be worth it, be patient. Our vetting process is like this. First, we look at your profile and read how you
articulate yourself in the description, then we look at pics. We can't 100% judge you off of the lack of a well written profile description, maybe you’re the greatest conversationalist in the world but you set up you profile in a hurry, then never got back to it. The first strike has been struck against you though. I'm looking for similarities, likes and dislikes. There's no point in reaching out to someone that clearly stated she's looking for a single man, that's a waste of time,unless you're just seeking friendship. Once we've established the profile and the pics are nice we send a friend request to be able to see more pics. Once the friend request is accepted, we may or may not initiate further conversation based on what's going on with us (I.e.: wife was pregnant). We don't want to waste your time if we can help it. If we initiated conversation on MWL by sending you a message, that usually means that we've already established that we’re physically attracted to you. OK next step in the vetting process... Big lead up. CONVERSATION!! We communicate through MWL messages to get to know you. I'll say it again.... Big lead up. GET TO KNOW YOU. (Alot of people skip this part, that's why you're frustrated, impatient, Smh). If we establish that we like the conversation, we'll invite you to a separate medium of communication, email, phone convo, Kik, What'sapp etc. This is a good sign. This means that we like your conversation so much that we want to do it outside of MWL (Which we love by the way, hats off to the creators and administrators). So now that you've made it directly to our phones we will probably be exchanging more pics. (You can do what you want, but you'll be getting vanilla pics from us. I'll accept nudes from you though if you still want to send them.) Remember, we're still trying to establish that you're not crazy and if we want to go to that next level. OK let's say you've made it to the next level. We've chatted and exchanged pics enough that we want to see you and get to know you in person aka the meet and greet. Notice that I said “see you and get to know you in person” and not see you and get to fuck you in person (although that will cum eventually if you get through this process). Once we get scheduling differences out of the way we'll establish a friendly place to meet, hookah lounge, restaurant, etc. Somewhere that we can talk. This is where you are trying to impress the other couple or single etc. Dress Sexy (Vanilla sexy, not swinger sexy). Lmao don't show up to the movie theatre in a thong, heels with a red gag ball in your mouth, Lmao. Over the course of the evening there will probably be light flirting and good conversation, we're getting to know each other. Just because we... less
Swingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most... moreSwingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most would not have a full on BDSM scene at a swing play party. However, collars and QoS tattoos are clearly visable.
Some may say that the act of sex in and of itself implies that one person is by default dominant and the other is submissive. I've read the misogynistic musing of a rather off kilter male who declared "The female gets fucked by the male, therefore she is in a position of submission. The act of opening her legs for a man, is in and of itself, submission to the authority of his cock. Sucking dick is also an act of submission."
God forbid a woman should enjoy sex and all of its activities, without closed minded individuals disrespecting her desires!
For those who do practice the fine art of dominance and submission, their dynamic is usually also expressed within their swing activites. For those dominants who have trained their submissives to be the perfect sex slave, cum slut, anal queen, etc... what better place to show off all of your hard work, than at a swing event? A swing party is a sex slave's fun house. A swing party gives the submissive n opportunity to entertain as many play partners as their dominant allows, proudly showing off all of their hard earned skills. Double and triple penetration, 3somes, 4somes, gangbangs, analbangs, bukakke, snowballing, forced bi, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. All of the slut training that was done in private may be fully executed at a swing party. Subtle scenes of humiliation, degredation, objectication and verbal abuse may also be played out.
For those who practice cuckoldry, and are comfortable revealing their dynamic publically, a swing party maybe a wonderful setting for watching one's hotwife being serviced by multiple bulls. A cuckquean may watch her hothusband service multiple women as well. Bear in mind, swingers take little notice of a collar/choker. However, chastity belts and cock cages may be a jarring distraction.
I've seen and practiced submission at swing parties in the form of reliquishing my right to choose a play partner. My partner and I would speak at the meet and greet, I expressed to him with whom I would like to play and once play began... he chose who I played with. In doing so, he had a guideline as to what I liked and within the pool of men I identified, he picked who would be allowed to play with his prized posession. He directed how they should play with me, and advised them when I had had enough. I said nothing, and may or may not have made eye contact with the play partner. They approached from behind, as I pleased my partner orally. They asked my partner for permission to play with me. My partner responded, yes or no. I belonged to him, he determined who would play with his sex toy for the night.
A gangbang is another type of event where the recipient may fully submit. At a gangbang, the submissive is the center of attention of 5 or more people, who's only task is to fuck and objectify them. The submissive at a gangbang, is the ultimate piece of fuck meat, willing to be ravished. All participants lineup or encircle the bed talking smack and fucking the submissive senseless. Gangbangs are not for the faint at heart. Objectification, humiliation, degredation, verbal abuse are all aspects of a good gangbang. Depending on what was negotiated, bukkake, cream pies, golden showers, spitting, hair pulling, open handed spankings, choking may also on the menu. If the submissive enjoys being objectified, humiliated, degraded, and verbally abused... a group of 5 or more in a gangbang is the perfect setting for having that kinky fantasy fulfilled.
Swing may be a sex slaves/subs safe haven. It may also be the perect place for a dominant to show off all of their training skills, and share their sex toy with others.
As always, play safe and play often.... BossBlaque less
Gangbangs, MFM threesomes... let's talk about female friendly activities.
She's the Queen, the center of attention, and her... moreGangbangs, MFM threesomes... let's talk about female friendly activities.
She's the Queen, the center of attention, and her subjects have arrived solely to satisfy her needs. Her King is there to supervise, ensure that the subjects stay inline and that the lube and condoms are always within arms reach.
A female centered play session is the fantasy of many women. A room filled with men who are happy to fill her every orifice. Handsome well hung studs who caress every inch of her body with their hands and mouths, while bringing her to multiple orgasm ecstasy! Yes, just like that.
The unfortunate truth of the matter is, many males are not ok, with sharing their women with other males. Some males love it, others will rarely allow it. I hate to say it, but there is sexism within swing. Men are encouraged to fuck as many women as possible, while some of those same males limit their women's activities. And, honestly, there are bisexual women who don't want attention from other males.
A female centered event usually has a 2:1 ratio in the woman's favor. At a female friendly event there are two males for every female (aka a MFM threesome), single males also benefit from this set up. A gangbang is a female centered event where there are, at minimum 4 or more males at the individual female's disposal.
The desire to have a gangbang is one that I've heard other women confess to on more than one occasion. However, slut shaming has prevented many females from acting on their desire to have sex with more than one man at a time.
I've attended a few female friendly events, I prefer them matter of fact. I was previously advised, and will also advise my man loving sisters in sex accordingly...
The vetting process.. Get to know all of the bulls that you will be inviting to the gangbang. Both you and your partner should have a rapport with the bulls that you wish to play with. The bulls must also be comfortable playing with and around one another. Even though each male may trust and respect you... they may not feel the same about the other male(s) in the room. If one males drops his pants and all the other males go dick shy, your gangbang will not work.
The fluffer... Invest in a like minded friend who also desires to be the female center of all male attention. If all of the men that you've invited to the gangbang are living up to their titles as bulls, at some point, you may need back up. In order to keep the momentum going, a fluffer who will keep their dicks hard while you take a much needed bathroom break is priceless! A BFF shared gangbang, what are besties for!
The Guardian... There must be one male in the room who is not fucking, but keeping an eye on all of the bulls. The guardian ensures that the agreed upon rules are enforced. No anal, he ensures no one forgets and tries to slip a dick in your ass. No bareback, the guardian ensures the condoms are readily available and are utilized at all times. If needed, the guardian also helps with fluffing the female... encouraging her to continue and providing her with the needed emotional support. The guardian is usually the females partner or significant other. A man, who the bulls would think twice about crossing.
The reality... The female centered event is my personal favorite. I like playing with women, but got damn, I LOVE having more than one man at a time. I've got three holes, at least 2 should be filled at all times. The reality of it all is the type of men who attend female friendly events are usually not the well hung Adonis studs that our wet dreams are made of. Gangbang regulars may be the single males who can't get pussy elsewhere. Sad but true.
Sensory overload, with all those men staying hard to fuck you silly, you have to live up to the hype. You have to bring your A game. A gangbang is not the time to play the pillow princess. Be prepared to be bent, stretched and contorted into positions that may hurt your back, neck, thighs, jaw, etc. There are not one, not two but 5 or more cocks to be sucked and fucked. Build up your stamina to suck and fuck them all, twice! Again, invest in a fluffer to help you out.
What is the theme of your female friendly party? Bukkake, creampie, bareback, Queen of Spades, are bisexual men allowed? Will you expect the bi men to play with one another? Know what you want, how you want it, and communicate those desires to your bulls, and ensure that your guardian is able to enforce the rules.
Things may get primal... You've found and fucked the 5 or more bulls individually. And, they are now all in a room ready to deliver the gangbang of your dreams... there is a bit of reality that I would like you to consider. Things may get primal. Yes, you read that correctly. Primal. A room full of horny men waiting their turn to fuck the only women in that room, can easily turn into a feeding frenzy. Heed my suggestion... make sure that guardian can handle the men in the room. If he needs to PROHIBITED someone out, he better be... less
This blog post stems from recent comments and personal experiences. There were a lot of people chiming in on guys having... moreThis blog post stems from recent comments and personal experiences. There were a lot of people chiming in on guys having lost the art of seduction or never have even learned it in the first place. I have seen this and can agree, but let’s not leave out the flip side to this conversation. There are many women who preach a whole gospel on the etiquette of their preferences when being approached to converse or play, yet engage in the same actions that they preach against.
I have a strong desire for sexual activities, but……
Sweetheart, “where ya dick at” or “just pull ya dick out” didn’t entice me when I heard it in highschool and it definitely doesn’t excite me as a grown man. Now that’s not saying that this approach would never ever work, but don’t be surprised if it doesn’t. Too many ladies are resting their seduction on the palms of their physical attributes. “My panties are off….what’s wrong with you?” “I’m naked….what’s the issue?” This shit is almost hilarious, because you complain about the guys who just lead off of their physical attributes. “I know this is a swinger site, but cmon….sending me dick pics already” or “Can we have a real conversation before you just go into sex” Which way do you want it ladies? You want the real genuine guy upfront, but as soon as you decide its ok to take it further, you want the robot dick dude lol. We all ain’t robot dick dude….and we all ain’t on molly or drunk too much whiskey. Some of us simply are just lacking your end of the seduction. And I could understand if you feel that you don’t have to or shouldn’t have to give that level of seduction, but then don’t complain with your results.
And there’s just too much dick-shaming on guys who have perfectly fine sex lives outside of those experiences. Yes, there are the occasions when nerves pick up, medical performance issues, molly or whiskey dick, but there is also another reason and ladies you gotta start owning that shit too. If ladies could feel comfortable calling guys wack cause they couldn’t get up around a bunch of naked women, then technically I should be able to spark the conversation about boring women who feel that just because they are naked every dick should respond the way they want it to.
The art of seduction flows both ways. If you require or seek a level of seduction, then be willing to give it back….that’s all I’m basically saying. I know everyone has their own preferences and styles and desires and kinks and and and and…….but look at yourself first when you come into an issue, you just may be the solution to your very own problem. less
Now that you've decided to swing, I strongly suggest that you take your time and pace yourself. You will have some great,... moreNow that you've decided to swing, I strongly suggest that you take your time and pace yourself. You will have some great, and some not so great swing experiences. Try to manage your expectations, so that you have less disappointments, and more fun times. Here are a few things to bear in mind...
Finding other swingers to play with.... You actually have to put in the work to meet other swingers. Umm, happy horny swingers don't fall out of the sky and into your lap. Most swingers don't live down the street. You will have to join a swing site or two and actually get out and hunt for what you want. In my opinion, knowing what you want, will make it that much easier to find what you want. How will you identify, bi, straight, single, couple? How will you swing, full swap or soft swap? Will you opt to only partake in threesomes, if so, what kind of threesome, MFM, FFM or FMF? There are cyber swingers, curious about the lifestyle, posting nudes and videos, but never actually swing. There are those who only play at clubs. There are those who only play in private. Some swingers are kinky, and others are downright vanilla. What kind of swinger are you?
They come in all ages, shapes and sizes... Most swingers are not built like Greek gods and goddesses... they look really average. Most couples have one member who is hot, and the other is not. If you are lucky, you will find a couple where both partners are fucking hot! That is the exception, not the rule. Swingers are everyday people, you will see cellulite, stretch marks, c-section scars, wrinkles, sagging skin, etc. Gorgeous with their clothes on, doesn't mean fabulous with their clothes off. There are young swingers, there are old swingers, and there are some in between. There is no one look, or age range. Figure out where you would like to fit in. The younger swing crowd, from what I've seen isn't really about the core lifestyle.They usually don't take the time to learn the rules of the lifestyle. Yes, there are swingers under 30, who know how to handle themselves. Hell, there are swingers over 35 that need to be checked on their bullshit too.
Time is of the essence... Take your time, swing is a process. Get to know the people that you will possibly play with. Text, talk, meet and greet. Do all of that long before you ever have sex. Feel them out and figure out who they are as people before you all get naked. Build a rapport with them, before entering a hotel room with them. I usually avoid playing on the first meet. If we are at a play party, well, different rules apply. But, in general, don't let the desire to get laid, cloud your judgment. Don't rush into anything that you may regret later.
Ask as many questions as possible... Ask questions... lots of questions. How do you play? What are your likes and dislikes, do you smoke, are you a heavy drinker? Do you have to be drunk or high in order to play? If you have children, do you have reliable child care? Do you maintain a pet friendly home? Do you use toys? Do you get involved or do you prefer to watch? Is kissing allowed? How long have you been in the lifestyle? What have your experiences in the lifestyle been like? How do you interpret swing in general? Are you full swap? What are your non-negotiable hard limits? What are your soft limits, that you would eventually like to try? What are you go to preferences? Do you photograph or videotape your activities? Do you post your photos or videos on social media? Most importantly, for every question you are willing to ask... you must be able to answer are well.
Now that your eyes have glazed over... take a breath and let what you've just read sink in. Lower your expectations of your fellow swinger. They are not perfect, neitther are you.Potential play partners will flake from time to time, and so will you. Life happens. Their photos will not always match what you see, when you finally meet them in person. Think about it, do you post your worst photos online? I didn't think so. Are you physical perfection... ok, neither are they. Do you fuck like a porn star... don't expect them to. Some play partners will blow your mind, some will make you wonder, why did I leave the house for this bullshit?
Here are a few scenarios as to why asking the right questions can be crucial... got pet allergies, afraid of dogs? You're going to need to know if your host has pets before you agrew to play at their home. In recovery or work at a job where you are randomly tested for drugs... that 420 crowd or that couple that drinks heavily may not be the right fit for you. If there is a morality clause in your employment contract... guess who may get fired for having sexually explicit pics/videos online? Got kinks and fetishes, let other swingers know. If you scare them off, or turn them off, don't get offended. I'm into BDSM, I keep it out of swing sessions.
Welcome to the world of swing, also known as, the sex Olympics. You may think that swing is all about readily available wet... less
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