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Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY... moreHey Guys,
Here are some Quick Tips to a Successful (as in having fun, not getting laid...I ain't nobody's pimp) night at ANY swing club:
1. Do your research. Figure out what night is catering to the best crowd, theme and price range for your sensibilities. Off nights, like Mondays or anything midweek, are more attractive for those with thin pockets (no hate, no shade)...but you get what you pay for: an off night with no guarantee of a crowd, or maybe crowded with a rowdier or less desirable bunch of folks, more {possibly creepy} single dudes. The larger and more organized parties tend to be planned far in advance so that folks have time to plan and prepare to come out.
2. Bring Sand to the beach- If you are a couple, let's keep it 100. You should NEVER have any complaints about going out with your sexy Bae and having a good time. Treat every LS adventure as a Sexy Date Night for you both. Outside of that, reach out to any prospects and entice them to come out and party with you. You are on a damn swinger website. Get out of your fucking house and meet some damn swingers! If you start up a dialogue 1st with folks, you will worry less about getting a cold shoulder in person. Even if they are aloof in person (most aren't if you actually speak to them like cool, somewhat sane and respectful human beings), then you know that those aren't the people that you need to be around. Not everyone will like you, or vice versa. It happens. Spend your energy connecting with those that do. And develop a thicker skin to rejection. In this world, you will need it.
3. Have NO Expectations- People are people. One minute it might be a go with some sexy strangers, the next minute, someone gets cold feet or a couple squabble or some other "party done". Shit happens. The less you go into things expecting a payout from anyone other than you and your Beloved, the far far FAR less chance that you set yourself up for disappointment. When things don't pop off with others, man up and and bang your personal hottie silly on one of the beds.
4. Lastly, once again...you get what you pay for- Y'all let me know in what other scenario IN LIFE would you get a place to dress up as scandalous as you want, eye fuck other scandalous sexies, possibly meet and fuck said scandalous sexies on amenities provided, drink as much as you bring and not get arrested or raided for your Hedonistic behaviour...all in the span of a legit night out? You ain't getting that for 30 bucks a couple. Leave the vanilla club prices right with the vanilla club mentality. This IS a far different world. less
Swingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most... moreSwingers who also practice the D/s dynamic usually practice their kinks either openly or quietly at swing parties. Most would not have a full on BDSM scene at a swing play party. However, collars and QoS tattoos are clearly visable.
Some may say that the act of sex in and of itself implies that one person is by default dominant and the other is submissive. I've read the misogynistic musing of a rather off kilter male who declared "The female gets fucked by the male, therefore she is in a position of submission. The act of opening her legs for a man, is in and of itself, submission to the authority of his cock. Sucking dick is also an act of submission."
God forbid a woman should enjoy sex and all of its activities, without closed minded individuals disrespecting her desires!
For those who do practice the fine art of dominance and submission, their dynamic is usually also expressed within their swing activites. For those dominants who have trained their submissives to be the perfect sex slave, cum slut, anal queen, etc... what better place to show off all of your hard work, than at a swing event? A swing party is a sex slave's fun house. A swing party gives the submissive n opportunity to entertain as many play partners as their dominant allows, proudly showing off all of their hard earned skills. Double and triple penetration, 3somes, 4somes, gangbangs, analbangs, bukakke, snowballing, forced bi, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. All of the slut training that was done in private may be fully executed at a swing party. Subtle scenes of humiliation, degredation, objectication and verbal abuse may also be played out.
For those who practice cuckoldry, and are comfortable revealing their dynamic publically, a swing party maybe a wonderful setting for watching one's hotwife being serviced by multiple bulls. A cuckquean may watch her hothusband service multiple women as well. Bear in mind, swingers take little notice of a collar/choker. However, chastity belts and cock cages may be a jarring distraction.
I've seen and practiced submission at swing parties in the form of reliquishing my right to choose a play partner. My partner and I would speak at the meet and greet, I expressed to him with whom I would like to play and once play began... he chose who I played with. In doing so, he had a guideline as to what I liked and within the pool of men I identified, he picked who would be allowed to play with his prized posession. He directed how they should play with me, and advised them when I had had enough. I said nothing, and may or may not have made eye contact with the play partner. They approached from behind, as I pleased my partner orally. They asked my partner for permission to play with me. My partner responded, yes or no. I belonged to him, he determined who would play with his sex toy for the night.
A gangbang is another type of event where the recipient may fully submit. At a gangbang, the submissive is the center of attention of 5 or more people, who's only task is to fuck and objectify them. The submissive at a gangbang, is the ultimate piece of fuck meat, willing to be ravished. All participants lineup or encircle the bed talking smack and fucking the submissive senseless. Gangbangs are not for the faint at heart. Objectification, humiliation, degredation, verbal abuse are all aspects of a good gangbang. Depending on what was negotiated, bukkake, cream pies, golden showers, spitting, hair pulling, open handed spankings, choking may also on the menu. If the submissive enjoys being objectified, humiliated, degraded, and verbally abused... a group of 5 or more in a gangbang is the perfect setting for having that kinky fantasy fulfilled.
Swing may be a sex slaves/subs safe haven. It may also be the perect place for a dominant to show off all of their training skills, and share their sex toy with others.
As always, play safe and play often.... BossBlaque less
Ahh ladies, the coveted MFM. Two straight men and a very, very happy woman. This is my personal favorite. The center of... moreAhh ladies, the coveted MFM. Two straight men and a very, very happy woman. This is my personal favorite. The center of attention for two hungry males. This is as close to swinger nirvana as some of us will ever get. Other than group sex, of course. In a MFM, I let the men take the lead, it's the perfect time for me to relax and be pampered. I am the feast, and they are the famished.
Be as prepared as possible... Are you ready for this? Really ready to become food for two hungry men? Are you prepared to hold your own when, and if things get primal? Are you ready to deal with your partner possibly losing his shit as he watches you enjoy another lover? Are you ready for the smile on your husband's face as he watches you gag on another man's cock? In a MFM threesome, you must have at minimum 2 fully functioning holes. Is your vagina up for some serious pounding? Is your tongue and throat ready to lick and suck until the men are tired? For those who like anal... are you sure, you wanna do this?
Your partner knows every inch of your body, your likes and dislikes. If the third in your MFM is a man that you have laid with in the past, you are ahead of the game. If not, you are in for a world of surprises. You can talk about all of your likes and dislikes, but once dicks get hard and pussies get wet, the rules tend to bend a bit. Is the new guy going to remember that you don't like a finger in your pussy when he sucks on your clit? Will he remember to pull your hair when he's fucking you from the back? When he unexpectedly slips a finger in your ass, will you freak out or go with the flow? How will you tell him to shut the fuck up, when he's talking too much during sex?
Pillow Princess not allowed... You're the center of the threesome and are expected to fully participate. Grab a dick and get to sucking. Move those hips and get to fucking. Trying to find a smooth rhythm can be tricky. If each male is in his zone trying to get his nut, his way... things can get very tricky, and you as the female will get caught up in their tug of war. Stand your ground and remind them, this is your party and they have to focus on your needs. Keep sucking and fucking. Catch you breath and keep them both focused on the mission, fucking you into a wonderful orgasm!
Double trouble... Don't let your vagina cloud your judgment. Every MFM fantasy in your head, doesn't need to be fulfilled in the first MFM that you experience. Two dicks in your mouth at the same time... well, not all guys like the idea of crossing swords. One or both may go limp at the attempt. Let the fellas introduce that idea. Double penetration, one in the frontdoor, the other in the backdoor... unless you are an anal queen, leave this one to your 3rd or 4th MFM with guys who are both comfortable with you, and each other. Here's the thing... the membrane that separates the vagina from the anus is very thin. Once inside of you, each guy can feel his dick sliding against the other dude. Crossed swords is a feeling many guys cannot tolerate. Losing an erection is a possible side effect of double penetration.
There is no perfect approach to the MFM, but the more you know, the better it will be. My first was at a hotel party. Everyone came to play and boy did they ever. Anal was not expected, so, it was a wonderful introduction. I did lose track of the order of things once or twice, but the men always brought me back on track. Keeping focused has always been an issue for me. My favorite MFM position is doggy style, one in my mouth the other behind me. But, when things get hot and heavy, I always focus on the guy behind me, and can't concentrate on properly giving head. I. must. work. on. that! The guy behind me gets rode hard... and the guy in front ends up watching us orgasm. Then we switch and the other guy gets his... but the oral can get sloppy once I'm penetrated. I always keep this in mind, I have to learn to focus.
Find a position that works best for you. You may have to try out a few. Bent over doggy style works best for me. The guys are farthest apart and don't have to cross paths much. Lying on your back one in front and the other at your head is another good position, but, this can be a bitch on your neck. Get a pillow, or have him sit at an angle that works best for you. Reverse cowgirl, riding one, while giving the other head is also a good option.
The swing lifestyle has been a fun ride. I've met interesting people of all walks of life. Young and mature, all shapes,... moreThe swing lifestyle has been a fun ride. I've met interesting people of all walks of life. Young and mature, all shapes, sizes and cultures. What I have noticed, and it may be based on my limited experience, the lifestyle tends to be very segregated. All black, all hispanic, all white, that's pretty much it. Each group stays amongst themselves and there isn't a whole lot of mixing. Blacks, and latino do mix, especially if there is an interracial couple, but for the most part, play parties tend to be rather segregated.
Whenever, I see a hot date posted, and the host emphasizes "classy", I laugh to myself and ask... what are they trying to say? No low-class individuals allowed? Who wants low-class people at their party? No one wants loud, unruly guests, why does "classy" have to be stated on the hot date invite? Or, is there some other meaning to their desire to emphasize the need for "classy" individuals?
I've read profiles that specifically state, "no black males" a preference for an individual couple is fine, but as a prerequisite to a party? I've witnessed instances where couples didn't want to entertain white males. I had a Italian play partner who got no love from the other women... which meant I couldn't play with their men either. After seeing that happen one time too many, I no longer attended parties with him. He was well hung and skilled, I knew it, but the other females weren't interested in having sex with a white male. A white hispanic male mentioned the same issue to me. Most women wanted a BBC, they didn't want to play with him. The women, regardless of race, assumed white males would be less endowed. This assumption is one of the worst stereotypes. All black men aren't hung, all white males aren't small.
One of the saddest experiences that was brought to my attention was a particular hostess who only fucked black males are her pay for play parties. I was unaware of this policy and invited her to a free private party. She showed up and only played with the host, who was white. I was later told by someone who has known her for years... she is very particular about the color of men she will fuck. I called bullshit, and told him... nope! She will only fuck black men, if they paid to attend her event. She refused to fuck black men for free, but will gladly fuck any troll who shows up at her event and paid for the pussy! He tried in vain to defend her play partner preference... but, couldn't.
Then there was a play party where my mentor tried to explain away why the blacks and hispanics played with each other, and the white couples only played with each other. The hotel room was sectioned off, bedroom and living room. Blacks and hispanics happened to be in the bedroom, and the white couples happened to be in the living room. According to my mentor, the reason why things played out the way that they did, was due to the fact that the rooms were separated. Okay, fine. I didn't see what I thought, I saw. Or, I'm just pissed that I didn't get to play with those two hot white guys... or that sexxy ass girl. Yeah, that's it, I didn't get what I wanted, and I turned it into a racial issue. Maybe.
Now, I say all of that to say... I love diversity at a play party. The more that I have to choose from, the better. More people to choose from, check! More racially and culturally diverse, check! A mixture of newbies and vets, check! The more the merrier. Like minded swingers sharing and swapping should not be segregated. Nope, not that. The loud, rowdy, ill mannered, ummm no... they can stay home. Keep them on the banned list.
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